What do you have in your life RIGHT NOW that brings you joy?

Nothing? Bullshit. Look harder. Not what you will have or could have. Right now, what gives you joy? Your kids? Your friends? Your workout? Your dog, career, hobby? Nothing? Okay, what about your transition?

Yes, your transition, the one you’re in or about to embark on. Your new chapter. It’s yours. You own it. Just because it’s not written yet doesn’t mean it’s not yours. A new chapter means new choices, a clean slate, an opportunity to grow, change, which you may not have had before. This process can be empowering, priceless. Money can’t buy it, and it’s yours. Right now. Depending on your mindset, you can one day look back and see what you’ve built, knowing how far you’ve come and being proud of that. Or look down and believe that your life was meaningless. Mountains are built on transitions.

Many see their transition as negative. A drought, a winter. They lock doors and hide, with clench teeths and fist, waiting for the storm to pass. Transitions are gifts. Expired relationship, termination from a job, going back to school, these are all opportunities. There’s no other way to look at it and if you do, you are locking your door and hiding. Instead of worrying about what or who is at the end of that long dark tunnel, and live powerlessly in your head as you trudge through each day like you’re in a swamp, know that your transition means what will be. Not could be. Instead of complaining about the dark. Figure out how to bring light. It comes from within. It has to do with how you think.

First, know what you have. The things that bring you joy, that you are proud of, that you’ve worked hard for, built, created, raised. You have them now. You’ve earned them. No matter how small or big, they are yours. Maybe it’s internal, like how much you’ve changed. Are you stronger today than you were yesterday? Okay, you own that. It’s yours. Know how valuable that is and that you’ve built that change which means you are capable. Not lucky.

Second, take what you have in front of you right now to build tomorrow. See your transition as a model you must put together rather than trying to buy one that is already exists, or that someone else built. Your gifts, your relationships, your defects, your insecurities, your career, your marriage, whatever you are working on, that is the focus. Know that every day, you are working toward something and that process is empowering. It means you have control. Yes, I understand it may be difficult. But what of value comes easy?

Stop holding onto the doors of the plane and looking down. The longer you do this, the more afraid you will become.

You’re here for a reason.


Keep leaning forward,

- Angry

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Author of “I Used To Be A Miserable F*CK” and “Single. on Purpose.” IG: theangrytherapist

Author of “I Used To Be A Miserable F*CK” and “Single. on Purpose.” IG: theangrytherapist