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There Is No “One That Got Away”

For people who are in a relationship

You crossed paths and connected with someone, felt something magical but for whatever reason, it didn’t pan out. Maybe it was timing. Maybe he lived too far. Maybe you were not in a place to pursue something. Or maybe it did turn into something but slipped out of both of your heart hands. Or it turned into a significant multi-year relationship but ended, for all the myriad of reasons relationships expire. And in looking back, you believe he was the one that got away.

So you keep thinking about this person. You start comparing him to who you’re with now. You wonder what could have happened if the stars were in the right place. If the circumstances were right. Or if he just changed this one thing about him. Or if you were who you are now because now you want what you lost.

Cold shower.

There is no “the one.” The idea that we are only meant to be with one person on this planet is not romantic. It’s sad. With this belief, it means that if you are not with your “one”, you are with the wrong person which means you are compromising, settling, and you’re giving love a dead end instead of wings. That is not fair to you or who you have chosen to love.

You can love many people. Hundreds if you have that kind of time and energy. Probably…