Most of us can’t say no. We force ourselves to commit to things we don’t necessarily want to or think is good for us, because at the end of the day, we put others above ourselves. And because of this, we suffer the consequences. We hold resentment toward others but ultimately the anger we carry is with us. That weight is heavy, toxic, and lined with shame.

If you don’t have the ability to say no, you will always be powerless to a certain extent. You are allowing cracks in your container. And any cracked container will weaken your stance and stunt your growth / potential.

Although many struggle with the ability to say no, that’s not where the power lives.

It’s in the aftermath.

It’s not just saying no. It’s the peace you make with yourself after drawing that hard line. It doesn’t matter if the decision was right or wrong, healthy or unhealthy. What matters is that it was truthful for you at the time you made it. And that you accept it. Completely. If you have the ability to do this, simply put, you will like yourself more.

Stop carrying other people’s wants and start focusing on your own.

Keep leaning forward,

- Angry

Author of “I Used To Be A Miserable F*CK” and “Single. on Purpose.” IG: theangrytherapist

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