Reframe the Story of Your Break Up

The Angry Therapist
4 min readJan 9, 2024

Reframing the story of a breakup can be a powerful tool in turning it into a breakthrough. When we reframe, we shift our perspective and how we interpret the events of the breakup. Instead of viewing it as a devastating loss, we can choose to see it as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

Here are some steps you can take to reframe the story of your breakup:

  1. Acknowledge the expiration date: By reframing the story, we acknowledge and accept that the relationship had an expiration date and that it was not meant to last any longer or shorter than it did. This realization can help us accept the end of the relationship and let go of any lingering feelings of attachment or regret. It allows us to see that the breakup was a natural part of the journey, rather than a personal failure or rejection.
  2. Identify lessons learned: Reframing also involves reflecting on what we have learned from the relationship. We can ask ourselves what we are no longer willing to negotiate when it comes to love, life, and ourselves. This introspection helps us identify our values, boundaries, and priorities moving forward. It empowers us to make healthier choices in future relationships and avoid repeating old patterns.
  3. Embrace the entire story: Reframing encourages us to embrace the entire story of the relationship, both the good…

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The Angry Therapist

Author of “I Used To Be A Miserable F*CK” and “Single. on Purpose.” IG: theangrytherapist