Unless you come from a perfect family and have had nothing but flawless relationships, your head will play broken records of judgment and criticism. Of course the volume of the record varies, depending on your story. But we all have this playing inside us. It is quicksand. It starts with a raw emotion, anger, hopelessness, loneliness, despair, sadness, and anxiety. We sink deeper as our raw emotion turns into an emotion driven thought — the broken record. This is how we get negative self-talk loops stuck in our heads. You say something enough, even if it’s only to yourself, and you start to believe it. Whenever the pseudo self drives the mind into patterns of thought that is contrary to the solid self, these thoughts can turn into trouble. The tracks of our broken records turn into false beliefs. They start to define who we are and limit our potential. For example, The world would be better off without me. I’d be better off drinking again. No one loves me. I am worthless. I don’t deserve any better than this anyway. I can’t. I can’t. I can’t. These false beliefs create fear and uncertainty. They keep us locked in our heads on a planet very far from joy and happiness.

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