I want to help people but I don’t look anything like a life coach.

Back in the day, a psychotherapist wore a shirt and tie. Nice slacks. A business dress. Blouse. You were most likely in your thrities or above since you had to have a Masters level education + the amount of hours your state requires you to take the exam to be licensed, which, I’m not going to lie, sometimes takes longer than the Masters degree. If you had your own practice, you had an office or shared one with other therapists. The office had a couch. Soothing walls. Therapy books. A DSM-VI. Maybe flowers. A little waterfall thingy in the corner. Silver balls bouncing back and forth on the desk.

Then in the late 90’s, someone named Tony Robbins, who studied under Jim Rohn and learned techniques like NLP —Neuro Lingusitic Programming, a set of language- and sensory-based interventions and behavior-modification techniques designed to help improve the client’s self-awareness, confidence, communication skills, and social actions. The goal is to help the client understand that the way one views the world affects how one operates in the world. Tony ran seminars and used informercials to spread his message and help the masses. It was a new way to help people that didn’t involve a couch. Instead, lots of music and dancing and a walk on fire.

The life coach was born.

The life coach looked like a business coach. She ran seminars. Wrote books. Did a lot of speaking. Focused on human performance.

Then came the swell of wellness, fitness, nutrition, yoga, meditation, CrossFit. An explosion of coaches and teachers, all different ages with different backgrounds. With one common theme, the passion to help others.

They are already helping people so why not add life coaching to their skill set? Makes perfect sense. It would not only give them another service they can provide but also help them with what they do since they work with humans daily. Finally, it would give them more tools for their own life and relationships, hence making them better coaches and teachers.

Meanwhile, today’s therapist is burning out. They are tried of the rules and redtape. They are becoming claustrophobic. They want to use the internet as a tool. They want to document their journey. They want to show themselves. They’re sick of pushing paper and working in an office.

So they’re interested in life coaching as well. Years ago, it wasn’t a real thing. If you don’t have letters after your name, you were a fraud. But today, we care less about the letters after your name and more about who you are.

Here’s what today’s life coach looks like.

Today’s life coach comes from all walks of life. They are hoping the fence from the clinical world. They are yoga instructors, fitness coaches, meditation and energy coaches, social media influencers. They are mothers, students, athletes, entrepreneur. They are are full time, part time. They blog. They have day jobs. They are coaching people in creative ways, in ways that are honest to them.

And helping people now comes in all different forms. It’s not only the individual session. It’s done online, offline, through groups, retreats, fitness gyms, our company is creating an app that will allow our coaches to run virtual groups. It’s whatever feels honest to you.

What does today’s life coach look like? A professional looking for a career change. A mother who’s starting over in her own life and wants to help others. A fitness coach who wants to go deeper with his clients. A wellness blogger who wants to help people with more than her words. An accountant who’s tried of only using his left brain. A friend who everyone goes to for advice. It looks like you.

It doesn’t matter who you are or what you’ve been through, all you need to become a life coach is a story — which you have, and a passion the help others.


If you want to know more about how to become a life coach click HERE.

Author of “I Used To Be A Miserable F*CK” and “Single. on Purpose.” IG: theangrytherapist

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