How To Stop Putting So Much Pressure On Yourself

The Angry Therapist
3 min readFeb 14, 2024

Putting pressure on oneself can stem from various factors, and understanding why you do it is an important step towards self-awareness and personal growth.

Here are a few possible reasons why you may put so much pressure on yourself:

High standards and perfectionism: You might have set extremely high expectations for yourself, striving for perfection in various aspects of your life. This can create pressure as you constantly push yourself to meet unrealistic standards.

Fear of failure or judgment: The fear of failure or being judged by others can drive you to put excessive pressure on yourself. You may believe that if you don’t meet certain expectations, you will be seen as inadequate or unsuccessful.

External influences: Societal or cultural expectations, as well as comparisons to others, can contribute to the pressure you put on yourself. You may feel the need to meet certain milestones or achieve specific goalsbased on external benchmarks, even if they don’t align with your true desires.

Self-worth and validation: Placing pressure on yourself may be a way to seek validation and prove your worth to yourself or others. You might believe that achieving certain goals or meeting certain standards will make you feel more valuable or accepted.

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The Angry Therapist

Author of “I Used To Be A Miserable F*CK” and “Single. on Purpose.” IG: theangrytherapist