Falling in love and having a relationship are two very different things.
- Keanu Reeves
I️ added the “very” but the rest is from Keanu. Falling in love is a feeling. Loving someone (building a relationship) is a daily choice. Emphasis on the word daily. Many mistake the feeling of love with the actual work of loving someone. If your definition of loving someone is only dependent on the feeling, good luck. Because feelings fluctuate and your relationship will be short lived. Many allow themselves to check out or leave a relationship because feelings are changing or fading (yes, I am guilty of this as well) but that is not enough to leave. If that were the case, no one would have relationships over two years. So you have to choose, every day, to love or not love. To flames. To put in work. To look inward. Some days it will be easy and some days it will be difficult. But every day is a choice. That’s what building a relationship looks like. Everyone wants a relationship but not everyone is willing to make that daily choice, the action of loving whether they feel “in love” or not. Yes of course attraction is important and you shouldn’t compromise on that but it’s only the ticket into the park. So ask yourself if you just want the feeling of love or if you actually want to build something. Because they are very different things. Just because you have one doesn’t mean you’ll have the other.