Where ever you’re at in your life, as long as you are alive, here are a few important reminders your past has taught you.

Quit chasing. There is a difference between pursuing your goals and being in a constant state of chase. You’ve been doing this most of your life and it causes nothing but anxiety and feeling less than. You know this. Stop fighting or forcing the current. Instead, let it take you. Things will happen when they’re supposed to happen. Do the best you can each day and be okay with it, knowing as long as you are moving your path will unfold.

Don’t be concerned with what others think. Care and concern. Big difference. You’re going to care. You’re human. Not everyone will like you. Some will even say it. It will hurt. You will heal. But if you hold on to it, you will be making other people’s opinion of you a concern. By doing this, you will be allowing other people to write your story instead of you. Don’t be consumed with what other people think. Remember, it’s only their version of your story.

Dream big, often, and awake. The way you did most of 6th period. It’s okay to do that now. The more the better. What you dream is where you will go. That is your compass. Don’t be afraid to dream, no matter how big or ridiculous you may think they are. You are painting your life. Don’t do it by numbers. Splash. Color outside the lines.

If you’re rich, remember that man makes the money. Money doesn’t make the man. If you’re poor, remember that man makes the money. Money doesn’t make the man.

Know that you are a special blend. Everything that’s happened to you is what makes you you and no one can take that away. That is a gift, not a curse. Know the value of it. Your story is what makes you rare, not defective. So quit trying to rip out chapters. Just focus on writing new ones.

Breathe. If you don’t, you will die.

Be kind. Life is too short to be an asshole. Treat everyone as if they are your brother or sister. If you don’t like someone, always look inward first. Eliminate hate. It’s wasted energy and will only poison you.

Practice forgiveness and gratitude. These are two big words many people overuse. Do it daily. Make an conscious effort to forgive all the people in your life that have hurt you. Do it in pieces if you have to. But just do it. People think forgiving is one act. It’s an on going thing, forever. Just like gratitude, one of the most powerful tools you will ever have. It pulls you out of self and gives you traction to push through when you feel like you have nothing. They are both muscles. Exercise them.

If you’re single, embrace it. Don’t soak or wallow. Do everything you’ve always wanted to do. And with a fucking smile. Explore all parts of yourself, especially your fears. Know that the more you invest in you now, the more you will have to bring to the table when you find someone who deserves your love. If you’re not, love hard. There’s no other way. It’s a choice and you must do it daily. Do it with passion, respect, and with every tool you’ve ever earned.

Practice transparency. There’s nothing more powerful.

Or sexy.

Author of “I Used To Be A Miserable F*CK” and “Single. on Purpose.” IG: theangrytherapist

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