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Bring Something New To The Table
How to build a better relationship.
First, let’s start with a mantra.
“I will redefine what love means. Because I am different today and old love was soil. New love is / will be the fruit.”
We are not born with tools on how to build healthy relationships. No one teaches us. We should learn this shit in high school instead of geometry and other useless classes we will never use in life.
So as we grow up, we do the best we can without knowing that relationships are built. With tools that require awareness and a long self-discovery journey.
We love blindly and end up hurt, lost, and confused. We get pulled by our feelings and emotions, reacting to our triggers and patterns, setting ourselves up for unhealthy experiences. This then gives us distorted definitions of love. We chase ideas and fantasy. Then internalize after our relationships tailspin and wonder what’s wrong with us. So we hold up shields. Dig moats around our heart. And love with distance. Afraid to touch the stove because we keep getting burned.
Never hitting deeper intimacy. Or experiencing healthy. Love becomes a shot. A ride. Powerful yet fleeting. We get addicted to chasing dopamine instead of actually building something lasting and sustainable.
The by-product is emotional…
