Q: Hey Angry, what’s it like to date another therapist?
A: My answer is long. And like usual, a bit all over the place. So grab a beverage.
Yes, I’ve dated women on their self betterment journeys but never an official therapist. This is the first one.
But real quick. I have had sexual fantasies about my therapists.
You have too. Don’t lie.
Part of the fantasy is the whole hot for teacher thing. The thick boundary drawn with paint that should not be crossed. We want what we are not allowed to have. The other part is the false assumption that therapists have perfect lives and relationships. We want to experience what a “perfect” partner feels like. But of course, that doesn’t exist. There is no such thing as a perfect partner. Therapists are real people. They have real issues like everyone else. And we want to pull the curtain back to see if it’s true. There’s a part of us that wants to prove therapists are just as fucked up as we are. We want to expose them. And so there’s that deep curiosity. And the final piece. Therapists are trained to create a safe space and if you haven’t had one in a while or ever, that space can create a bond that can easily be mistaken for attraction.
The therapist / client relationship is real. There is trust, vulnerability, and a closeness that can turn into fantasy…
