An important question to ask yourself before investing in someone
Yes, chemistry, banter, humor, ability to hold space, blah blah blah. We all know those things. I talk about the importance of them all the time. Stay away from toxic. Healthy above attraction because one fades and the other one will keep it going. It will not work the other way around. Yes, you know this.
But here’s a new question to put some weight on.
What kind of relationship journey do you want to go on?
Yeah you have your own life but the life of the person you choose to love will also be a ride you go on as well. And vice versa. For example, if your partner is a professional basketball player, your life will look very different than if he sells cars for a living. One is not better than the other. It just depends on what kind of life you want. They are very different lifestyles and the difference will directly impact your life.
Your life will look very different if you’re with an artist or a CEO of a Fortune 500 company. I’m not referring to their income. I’m talking about lifestyle, everything from topic of conversation to matching purpose to what you want in your life to how you want to live it. All of it is subject to change depending on what your partner does for a living.
And no, you shouldn’t judge what your partner does for a living. But let’s be honest, dating a rockstar comes with its own set of blessings and challenges. What about loving someone who doesn’t know what he wants to do with his life? An athlete? An artist? An actor? Or what about a full time student? Or someone in grad school? They all produce very different paths and experiences?
So ask yourself, what kind of relationship journey do you want to be a part of?
Also, does he / she want to be a part of your journey? Is there overlap? Is it peanut butter and chocolate or oil and water?
It affects the day to day.
That being said, anything can work when it comes to love. I believe that. If two people want to be with each other bad enough, they can make it happen.
The thing about love is when you fall you fall. You either make shit happen or you don’t. Until it doesn’t work for you guys anymore. But why wait until hearts are broken and we become more afraid to love than we already are.