Change is overwhelming. There’s pressure from every angle. Sometimes the ability to adjust to change is what will create change.
At the end of the day, the deep end is all the things we can not control. Then we attach meaning and weight (our worth and future) on what we can’t control and that’s when we drown.
Unexpected life events. Other people’s opinions of us. People’s reactions and expectations. Choices we’ve made in the past. Our childhood. Our feelings. Outcomes. Sharks.
What in your life do you not have control over? Out of those, what are you holding onto because you think you do?
As we enter a new year, think about all the things you do have control of. Here are a few things you will always have control over. How you respond to people and events. What and who you want to invest your time in. Drawing healthy boundaries. Choosing forgiveness, gratitude, and love. The way you want to love and be loved. Your honesty with self and others. Your actions. How you think. Complete acceptance of your truth, where you’re at in your life, and what you want to improve.
What if you focused on these (what you do have control over)? How would that reposition yourself and create change in your life?
The more you focus only on what you have control over, the more you will be able to adjust to change. The stronger your ability to adjust to change, the greater the chance of change happening.
Like me, for many 2015 was a challenging year to say the least. The under tow of life sucked us under, making us lose our balance and maybe even direction. There were things we had control over. And there were things we didn’t. Maybe it caused us to look at ourselves, who we are, who we want to be, and where we want to go. Or maybe it didn’t. But if you’re alive, you’ve survived.
Now it’s time to take the learnings of 2015, and roll it into 16' with a focus on what you do have control over.
Because that’s the soil for growth.
It doesn’t matter how deep the waters are, the ocean can crush you. Or give you life. The only thing that matters is your ability to swim.
Happy New Year.
I hope 16' is the year that changes everything.
Keep leaning forward,
Change in 2016 starts HERE.