Aug 1Member-onlyHow to Apologize For RealsTODAY’S MANTRA A true apology comes from a non-defensive place. It comes seeing that you hurt someone, whether your fault or not, someone was hurt. Self-inventory and examining what happened can come later. How to Apologize For Reals So many people believe they’re apologizing when they’re actually not. We witness…Relationships10 min read
Mar 18Member-onlyNo, Really. How The F*ck Do I Get a Book Deal? Everyone Else Is Getting One!A No BS Guide On How To Sell Your Non Fiction Book — First, who are we to write this article? Hilary Swanson worked at a major publisher for almost a decade, signing up authors, editing manuscripts, and overseeing hundreds of books from concept to publication. John Kim took his unconventional approach as a therapist and channeled it into a blog/brand called The…Books7 min read
Nov 9, 2021Member-onlyWhat do you want to be when you grow up?From a young age, we’ve been given other people’s limits to wear on our heads like miner lights guiding us in one direction. It starts with the loaded question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We get it from our parents, teachers, uncles. And they ask…Self Improvement3 min read
Jul 1, 2021Member-onlyMy Fucking FeelingsWhat blogs used to be — I get tired of writing about love and relationships. Sometimes I wish I sold cars. But it wouldn’t last. I don’t like myself when I’m selling. It reminds me of the old me. When I was young and desperate and needing things from other people that I couldn’t give to…Relationships4 min read
Published in P.S. I Love You·Feb 15, 2021Member-only6 Steps to Turning Your Breakup into a BreakthroughOr you’ll just sink in your feelings and spin in your head — Relationships can be like an addiction. Like the twelve steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, there are necessary steps to take after a break up. Or you can just sink in feelings and spin in your head which will prevent you from healing. …Love10 min read
Jan 27, 2021Member-onlyMy Wife Won’t Give Me Blow Jobs AnymoreA client’s story — There are some clients you just don’t like. They annoy the shit out of you. Sometimes you can’t really put your finger on why. Yes, they’re defensive, argumentative, and don’t want to do the work. But that’s not why you don’t like them. The problem is not where they’re at…Singles4 min read
Dec 31, 2020Member-onlyThe Search for Love Starts Earlier than You ThinkAn except from my new book, “Single. On Purpose.” — I remember watching the movie Weird Science when I was twelve. If you don’t know, it’s about two nerdy teens who create their perfect woman, “Lisa,” after hooking up wires to a Barbie doll and wearing bras on their heads. The ’80s were a weird time with weird movies. Any…Relationships4 min read
Dec 15, 2020Member-only3 ReasonsWhy Being Single Is The New “Finding The One”It’s time to redefine everything — I’ve been single. Many times. I’ve struggled with loneliness. Rejection. Not believing I was desirable. I’ve tried “dating myself” many times and it was bullshit. The truth is we’re humans and we’re not meant to do life alone. We want to love someone. And that’s okay. We’re biologically built that…Singles6 min read
Nov 13, 2020Member-onlyMy Fucking FeelingsI’m not as vulnerable as a blogger as I thought I was, 90’s hair, and a new podcast that terrifies the shit out of me — 11.13.20. 4:30am. I just clentched my nose circulation-stopping tight to prevent a sneeze that would have surely woke up Vanessa, if the punching of these keys hasn’t already. She can hear a mouse thinking. Her hearing is so good it’s almost a handicap. I never want to hear that well…Life Lessons6 min read
Oct 28, 2020Member-onlyMy Fucking FeelingsBeing a witness — 10.28.20. 4:10am I miss when blogs didn’t have to have a point. Before we discovered that adding a picture got more clicks. I miss waking up in coffee shops. I noticed I’m very particular about the mug I use for my coffee these days. They have to be one of…Self Improvement4 min read
