6 Ways To Conquer Your Fears

The Angry Therapist
7 min readDec 20, 2022

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I’ve lived in fear for most of my life. Afraid to show myself. Afraid to love. Afraid of rejection. The growing grays in my hair. That I won’t be able to get it up one day. Afraid I won’t be able to pay my bills. Afraid my dreams won’t come true. Afraid this is as good as it gets. And when you live with this much fear, you are no longer afraid of death. You become afraid of life. When fear becomes the daily blanket you wrap yourself in, your fears turn into walls as you create your own prison.

These walls separate you from your life. You start to die, slowly. Inside. These fears starve you of the new experiences required for you to grow, thrive, and evolve. You become a shell. And life just becomes an idea. If you feel that fear has stripped you of life and robbed you of sharing your gifts with the world, made you stay behind a window and watch your life instead of going outside and living one, maybe it’s time to start breaking down your walls of fear.

Here are six tips to help you free yourself. So that you can start to live again. Love again. Build again. Breathe again. Or maybe for the first time.

1. The Commitment.

We get to a point when we’re done allowing fear to rule us. Like a New Year resolution, we tell ourselves we’re going to work on dissolving them. We know we need to do this. So we make the announcement. We blast it all over social media. We’re pumped. Determined. Done. People say, “I’ll have what she’s having.” But it doesn’t last for more than a week. It pretty much ends at the intention.

Dissolving our fears becomes a book we’ve been wanting to read that just collects dust inside our nightstand. For years. Without an iron-clad commitment to chase, capture, and start dissolving your fears, your fears will outrun you. Always. You can’t just be interested in dissolving fears. You have to commit to it. As if you’re committing to raising a child. There is no turning back.

Look, it doesn’t matter how small you start. You can enter at the shallow end of the pool. You don’t have to leap off the diving board. But you do have to take a step forward, even if it’s just one. Knowing there is only forward. You can take a step back but you can’t stop. You have to get back up.

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The Angry Therapist

Author of “I Used To Be A Miserable F*CK” and “Single. on Purpose.” IG: theangrytherapist