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4 Things To Look For In A Relationship, If You Want Your Relationship To Grow You.

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First,

There is you. There is your partner. And there is the relationship. As you guys invest in each other and build, the relationship becomes its own living breathing thing. The dynamic of the relationship becomes greater than it’s parts — you and your partner.

This is the natural progression of any relationship, healthy or not. The amount of time and energy we put into someone plus the daily engagement and exchanges, on all levels, create a strong dynamic that becomes greater than us. We either fall victim to it (unhealthy relationships) or it lifts us up and expands us (healthy relationships).

Hold that thought.

When you go home to see your parents for the holidays, do you or do you not become the fifteen-year-old version of yourself escaping out of your bedroom window? It doesn’t matter who you are today or how far you’ve come, you snap back like a rubber band. This is due to the sticky relationship dynamic you have with your parents. The tracks that have been laid before you could drive. Dynamics that eventually grow into other relationship dynamics like the addict/enabler and the purser/distancer and turn our life upside down. This demonstrates how…